Rachel Marshall // Motherhood
Meet Rachel. She is a stay at home mom and mother of three. Sing Pu - 21, Olive - 2 and Penny 6 months.
What does the role of "mother" mean to you?
Being a mom to me is sort of like being a shepherd. Constantly being aware of the needs of your family, constantly moving towards meeting those needs. It means being aware of your family both as a whole and as individuals and caring for them on multiple levels.You're never off duty as a mom. It means not sleeping when a member of your family is awake. It means loving your kids through struggle and discipline and having the joy of being the one who is there to see all their growth and accomplishments. Motherhood is being the constant for your family in an ever changing context, the touchstone that makes them feel grounded and safe. As a mom you embody home.
What is the best advice you have ever received when it comes to motherhood?
I don't remember the exact way it was phrased but the gist of it was about responding with patience and listening to your kids instead of reacting in a way that shuts down communication... So many times the behavior of my kids that really frustrates me is them acting out of heart issues I really want to connect with them about. Basically with my kids I try to operate as if nothing shocks me or takes me by surprise, to just accept them as they are no matter how unlovely that can be at times.
How do you like to spend days with your little one?
I love playing outside with my kids, but I seriously can't wait till my little wo are old enough to want to do crafts with me. My two year old is just getting really into imagination play which is really fun. Most afternoons our 6 month old and I are characters in some make believe world where only Olive really knows what's going on… and I'm ok with that ;) With my son I love staying up way too late drinking tea and talking about life. I still have a lot of his stories to catch up on and I love hearing what shaped his life before we met.
What do you find most important in your role as a mother?
I think praying for my kids is the most important thing I can do. I believe I have a unique spiritual authority when I pray for them as their mother that no one else has. To me that's as real as any tangible thing I do for them as their mom.