Chilli Pena // Motherhood
Introducing the lovely Chilli Pena. She is a stay at home mom, homemaker and toddler- whisperer. Her sweet little boy Sebastian is two.
What does the role of "mother" mean to you?
I remember when I was toward the end of my pregnancy with Sebastian the Holy Spirit gave me a small revelation about Jesus' humility. Philippians 2:5-7 says, "Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men." I thought about this verse and the fact that Jesus was born as a baby, a helpless baby who would not be able to survive without the care of his mother and father, and I realized that for Jesus, humility meant dependency. There are lots of kinds of people in the world who one might think of as humble, but Jesus choose to come in a form that was humble because of its dependent nature. By being born as a baby completely dependent on his mother, he gave us a picture of what it means to be completely dependent on God. Being a mother is about humbling our hearts to be fully dependent on the Lord so that we might well care for the little ones who are fully dependent on us. We look down at the vulnerability of our children and in seeing their need of us, are fueled to position ourselves to receive from our good Father.
What is the best advice you have ever received when it comes to motherhood?
"Believe that God is who He says He is. I plead with you to believe that He cannot lie, and that His word is truth... build your house on the Rock." These words were written specifically to mothers by my friend Danielle Anderson, and I read them before I was ever friends with her. They convicted and encouraged my heart, and I am continually in need of them. You can find her original blog post here : http://mrsdande.blogspot.com/2013/08/words-from-mom.html
How do you like to spend days with your little one?
Well, I have to be honest in saying that they way I like to spend days with my little guy is often not the way I get to spend days with him. We generally have to let our enjoyment of each other play out in small moments in between the day's to-dos: holding hands on the way to the car, little caresses after lunch, spinning in the sunshine waiting for Dad to come home, dancing with each other from across the baby gate as I clean up a mess on one side and he makes a new one on the other. Of course, we do love to be outside, read books, go to music class and bible study, and vista friends, but the truth is most of the time we are stuck in the mundane, teaching each other to see the Lord's goodness and glory in the in-betweens.
What do you find most important in your role as a mother?
Practically speaking I would have to say empathy. Of course, even this is a gracious gift from God, but I really feel like the Holy Spirit has sweetly given me the ability to empathize with my son (and hopefully husband too!) and feel compassion towards him in a way that is certainly not my own doing. It is helped so much! Whenever I feel I'm toeing the line between patience and banging my head against a wall, I try to imagine what it must be like to be tow years old. I image how hard it must be to want to express feelings, wants, and needs but not being able to. I remember times when I've been misunderstood and how frustrating it can be, especially if the other person gives up easily in trying to understand. I think about what it must feel like to know in your mind all things you want to do like jump high, or reach something, or put ton your own shoes, maybe even to understand how to do those things, but to not have to ability to. The more I think about what it must be like to be Sebastian, the more patience, love and understanding flow from me toward him in our intersections.